@so-very-stuck6 not putting it in 4wd like it should, tires spinning, so turned on, finally stopping and putting it in 4wd. Later on i was almost home and pulled in an emptry parking lot on a hill and put the suv back in 2wd and tried to get out of the parking lot. I couldn't, i was stuck in 2wd, nothing worked tires just spun. My leather gloves gripping the wheel as i couldn't get up the hill. Tires making that zzzzzzzzzzzz sound. Come on, come on. Pushing on the gas with my boot, hoping the tires get traction. Feeling so helpless
First time with muddy fields
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@westfil11 I should, but I don’t
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@scotsman. Me neither. Even if they sink in the mud, l only wear classic stiletto shoes.
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On second thought, perhaps I won't be trying again later this month
The fields are already wet, waterlogged in some cases and extremely muddy; there's another five inches of rain forecast in the meantime. I can be a bit stupid sometimes but even I wouldn't push my luck here, what with how soft the ground already was
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@Blackadder261 said in First time with muddy fields:
On second thought, perhaps I won't be trying again later this month
The fields are already wet, waterlogged in some cases and extremely muddy; there's another five inches of rain forecast in the meantime. I can be a bit stupid sometimes but even I wouldn't push my luck here, what with how soft the ground already was
Sounds perfect to me
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@sirstuck It would be if I had any realistic means of getting unstuck afterwards. Which I sadly lack
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Can I come
Tow you out please please
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Well, if you're in the beginning stages of transitioning, and it sounds like you present as a woman well, don't worry about getting unstuck. Most guys would trip over themselves to help a well dressed damsel in distress. Just hike your skirt up a touch and show lots of leg to an oncoming vehicle
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@Blackadder261 said in First time with muddy fields:
@sirstuck It would be if I had any realistic means of getting unstuck afterwards. Which I sadly lack
That just makes it more intense
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@stuckfanjay From a distance I probably do; problem is my voice isn't exactly the most femme and up close I'm probably a lot less well-presenting
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I think you'd be just fine.
Specially in this day and age.. people are much more accepting.
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I will pull you both out
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@stuckfanjay You're more than likely right, but I do have those kinds of issues with anxiety. (Currently seeking out therapy for that anyway as I think I know what causes it.)
That and I just can never be 100% sure how someone might react
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I completely understand the anxiety. And its easier said than done, but just doing it helps ease that too. Once that stuck cherry is popped and you see it's no big deal, you'll naturally get more daring.
But maybe until you get more bold, a simple "pulling over to check my GPS" type of stuck is best.... something you can easily rock yourself out of in a few mins as apposed to a pulling into a soft wet gateway and both your drive wheels are in it then... much harder to get out of -
@stuckfanjay Perhaps, yeah. Problem is finding somewhere for that though I can probably manage. I just prefer to be a ways out of sight so I'm less likely to be seen... which has the flipside effect of guaranteeing questions may be raised if I were discovered.
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Danger wanking
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Just a simple " I made a wrong turn and pulled in here to find my bearings" would suffice perfectly.
Maybe an evening drive out nto the country is in order... would serve two purposes... 1 locate some possible locations to revisit, and 2 help build your confidence with being out and about while dressed. ( which you're gonna have to get used to pretty quickly given the info you've shared with us) -
@stuckfanjay Yeah, I suppose so. Generally speaking I'm comfortable dressing femme, just that dressing up in a specific outfit and going out with this intent for some reason causes the nerves. (That said, I don't tend to dress femme at work but that's for other reasons)
I've scouted a few locations on google maps but yeah, some on-the-ground verifying may be of use.
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If a "certain outfit" is a bit outta your comfort zone, start out dressed down.
Perhaps jeans, a nice sweater, and heeled boots, then work your way into maybe a longer casual skirt, sweater and mid height heels and then when you're more comfortable with it go all out for the office attire or formal attire.
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@stuckfanjay That's a possibility to be fair, though I do still think it's just the act of going out and trying to get stuck that's causing the bulk of the anxiety. Will give that a go sometime later in the month though, got some tight riding pants and heeled boots to try with.
